Just women meeting for a pint, a laugh, and a bit of peace from the madness of the modern “community.” They call themselves Bean an Tí, a secret club of lesbians who’ve had enough of walking on eggshells in spaces that used to be their own.

Chemsex isn’t easy to talk about, and it’s even harder to fight. But that’s exactly why we have to. If not for us, then for Daniel. And if not for him, for the next young man whose hopes are torn apart. We need spaces that are open and accessible, places where men who have sex with men, especially those isolated by language or circumstance, can find real connection that isn’t built on drugs, alcohol or sex.

This is not an isolated case. Across the West, dissent is increasingly treated as criminal. Only two weeks ago, Irish comedian Graham Linehan was arrested at Heathrow and interrogated by five armed officers over three tweets. In Brazil, activist Isabella Cêpa was forced to flee the country after being prosecuted for “misgendering” a politician and facing up to 25 years in prison. From Britain to Reykjavík to São Paulo, words are being policed with the full force of the state.

How such a story could be condemned by someone so far removed from its emotional and cultural reality is not just ironic, it’s symptomatic of a broader trend where the loudest voices in the “LGBTQIA” often drown out the most relevant ones. Oseman’s stance may align with current orthodoxy, but it raises a troubling question.

Following his arrest, Matthew was released on bail under conditions that prevent him from naming or referencing the complainant. How can someone publicly defend themselves or correct false claims when they are legally barred from identifying their accuser?

The ethical breach by mocking a woman’s sexuality while posing as defenders of inclusivity is not just unprofessional, it is discriminatory and hypocritical. These guards acted not as neutral enforcers of rules, but as ideological actors targeting women for expressing a view that conflicts with current orthodoxy.

Why should bisexuality be treated any differently? Gender ideology seeks to erode its definition in the same way, pushing for it to be reinterpreted as attraction to ‘all gender identities’, further blurring the line between sex and gender. But bisexuality has always been about attraction to both sexes - not an ever-expanding list of self-identifications.

In addition to these concerns, we must consider the troubling fact that many countries allowing for international surrogacy harbour strong prejudices against same-sex individuals or impose severe criminal punishments for homosexuality. For instance, Kenya allows international surrogacy, yet same-sex relationships are criminalised with severe penalties. It is paradoxical and morally questionable that a country refusing to recognise same-sex couples domestically would permit the commodification of women and the sale of babies to gay couples abroad. How can this be framed as a gay right when it directly contradicts the principles of equality and non-discrimination we strive for?

A thousand deep belly laughs, hundreds of voice notes, plenty of tears, too many nights out and 366 days (it’s a leap year) later; we made it. A whole year of NAG-ing, and we’re just getting started. 

Over the past week, one of the members of Not All Gays made a shocking discovery. An Irish LGBTQ+ organisation, Dublin Pride, had photoshopped a historical photograph from the first large-scale Irish Pride protest in 1983. The sign that originally said “The Police Are Not On Your Side Either” had been digitally altered to say “Trans Rights Are Human Rights.”This sparked outrage online, with the Not All Gays thread racking up over 330k views on Twitter.